Today's Gift: Apologies


Sometimes, we act in a manner with which we are less than comfortable. That's human. That's why we have the words: "I'm sorry." They heal and bridge the gap. But we don't have to say, "I'm sorry" if we didn't do anything wrong. A sense of shame can keep us apologizing for everything we do, every word we say, for being alive and being who we are.

We don't have to apologize for taking care of ourselves, dealing with feelings, seeking boundaries, having fun, or getting healthy.

We never have to change our course, if it is in our best interest, but sometimes a general apology acknowledges other feelings and can be useful when the issues of a circumstance or relationship are not clear. We might say, "I'm sorry for the fuss we had. I'm sorry if what I needed to do to take care of myself hurt you; it was not intended that way."

Once we make an apology, we don't have to keep repeating it. If someone wants to keep on extricating an apology from us for the same incident, that is the person's issue, and we don't have to get hooked.

We can learn to take our apologies seriously and not hand them out when they're not valid. When we feel good about ourselves, we know when it's time to say we're sorry and when it's not.

Today, I will try to be clear and healthy in my apologies, taking responsibility for my actions and nobody else's. God, help me figure out what I need to apologize for and what is not my responsibility.


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Happy Friday!

Two happy days in a row! Happy Thanksgiving and Happy Friday! How was your Thanksgiving? I hope it was fabulous and that you are still full. Did you eat some good food?  I hope you had a wonderful week. Here are some great highlights from my week.

I went this week to get it touched up a bit. I've been wanting the word 'faith' tattooed for a little while now and at the beginning of October I finally bit the bullet and got it done. I absolutely love it!

A really long holiday weekend
I took Wednesday off to clean and decorate my apartment. I ended up cleaning on Saturday and then decorating on Tuesday night while I watched Dancing with the Stars Finale. I used Wednesday to have some 'Erica' time. I slept in, went to the gym with a girlfriend, got my hair done...and took 2 naps! It was a wonderful day.

On Thanksgiving morning my parents and I participated in the annual Drumstick Dash 5K (move your feet so others can eat). All proceeds benefit the Rescue Mission here in our home town. This was the first year I registered as a runner. My parents walked and I walk/jogged. I probably did about 50/50 and finished in 44 minutes. That's pretty good for me! After the race we went to Starbucks and got our hot beverages and a paper to check out all the ads for Black Friday.

FOOD!...I mean, Family Time!
This year I cooked! I made cornish hens, roasted carrots, and crescent rolls. Mom and dad brought balsamic roasted sweet potatoes and brussell sprouts and a salad. I also made oven-friend apple pies. Everything was so delicious! I had to put the kitties on the porch so that I could set the table. You can see little Cosima in the door window.  Helena kept trying to get on the table. Dad was so tuckered out that he took a little cat nap before we went to the movie.

After dinner we went to see the newest movie in the Harry Potter franchise. It was AMAZING!!!! I can't wait for the rest of the 'series' to come out. I'm not going to say anything about the movie in fear of spoilers, but IT WAS AWESOME!!!!!!
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I hope you all had a wonderful week. I have some Gilmore Girls to watch today, so I'll leave with that.

Have a great weekend!!!

I'm linking up with Bright on a Budget, Della Devoted, and Cup of Tea for High Five For Friday.




  

Happy Thanksgiving!

I wish you have happy Thanksgiving with family,
friends, fun and fantastic food!




gobble gobble,

7 Day Work Out Plan

If you've liked my new Facebook page, Being FitTastic, then you've already seen the 7 Day Work Out Plan that I put together.  I have stated before that I am not a nutritionist, dietitian or fitness instructor. I am by no means a pro! I've had private training sessions with trainers at gyms I've belonged too. I read tons of magazines and blogs. I just happen to know what works for me. Over the years I have learned what I can manage as well.

The 7 Day Work Out Plan that I put together I have tried and I really like it. It's a simple work out, but it's great! I definitely work up a sweat. You can absolutely modify it to work for you. I personally like the treadmill for walking/jogging, but I know some people (my mom) love the bike. Sometimes I mix up the cardio machines for my 30 minutes of cardio. When it comes to the Leg and Arm exercises make sure to do what works best for you. Maybe 20 reps is too much to start off with. I like to break them down in sets and will likely do 2 sets of 10. For the '20 Cross Punch with Weights' I need to start off with 3lb weights and build up. You might be able to start with heavier weights.



It's all about YOU and where you feel comfortable. Give it a shot and let me know what you think!

Have a happy work out!

Being FitTastic Daily Tracker

If you're like me, then you like to keep track of EVERYTHING! I especially try to keep track of my food and exercise. It helps me figure out what works and what doesn't.  I know that there are TONS of Daily Trackers out there for you to find and download. I created a super simple one for you to use. I haven't been keeping track of any it lately, so I'm hoping the tracker I created will help.

The Being FitTastic Daily Tracker will help you track your breakfast, lunch, dinner, snacks, and your gym sessions.  There's also spots at the top to date and mark your weight. I weigh about once a week (sometimes more), but I have friends that weigh daily. I don't recommend that, because your weight can fluctuate based on anything!  I've always read (and been told) to weigh the same day and same time every week. Oh, and always in the nude :)


I hope you like the tracker. I've got tons of ideas on things to make for us to all enjoy and use to get (and stay) fit and healthy! Let me know what you think!


Being FitTastic

Last week I had a sudden hit of inspiration!

I had some girlfriends over a couple of Saturdays ago.  We enjoyed pasta, bread, chex mix, and ice cream together. Oh, and brownie bites!  After dinner we were all chatting about how we should 'get fit and healthy' together. You know how I'm always trying to eat better and work out. I'm always doing some sort of diet program whether it's the Whole30, the 21 Day Fix, or some Pinterest plan.

I was sitting on the couch Wednesday night last week and decided to start a Facebook Page called Being FitTastic. My hope is to connect with all of my friends and so many more, so that we can help motivate each other to eat healthy and to stay fit.


I am in no way a dietitian or a fitness coach. I am a big fan of the Whole30 and have tried the 21 Day Fix. With the holidays upon us I think we could all use the motivation.  Come follow along and like the Being FitTastic Facebook Page and let's work together!

Currently I'm . . .

I haven't published a person post in quite a while, so I thought I would do a Currently post. This is a more detailed Currently that I found and really liked it. Check out what I'm currently up to and then tell me all about what you're currently up to! 



Reading… I was reading around 4 books recently. In addition to those I was trying to do 2 Bible studies! I decided to HALT and reevaluate!  I am now doing 1 Bible Study and reading The Magician's Nephew by C.S. Lewis. I've always wanted to read The Chronicles of Narnia, so I finally bought the set and am starting at the beginning!

Watching… Game 6 of the World Series. The Cubs are currently leading 7-2 against the Indians. I'm cheering for the Chicago Cubs! I lived in Chicago when I was little, so of course I'm going to cheer for them.  My parents are from Ohio and my dad is cheering for 'The Tribe,' but my mom is cheering for the Cubs.  There's a little bit of tension in their house right now!

Trying… To stay off of Diet Coke. I was sick most of last week and didn't have Diet Coke for 5 days.  That's a long time to go w/o for someone who is used to drinking three 20oz bottles a day.  Today (Tuesday 11/1/16) was the first day I drank a lot of soda again. I really do like water a lot better. 

Cooking… Nothing at the moment, but for dinner Wednesday night I'm baking some chicken with a sweet potato and steaming some broccoli. Yummy!

Eating… I had pizza for dinner. I met a friend for dinner and we went to Benny Marconi's in Downtown. Giant slices!

Drinking… I just finished my evening cup of tea. I love my Trader Joe's Decaf Green Tea.

Texting… I have a constant group text going between myself and two other girlfriends. We say 'good morning' to each other each day and keep one another update on our goings on. I love them to death and am so thankful for their friendship!

Pinning… Mostly cat pictures...Pinterest seems to find a lot of those for me. Also makeup tutorials lately. 

Tweeting… Mandy Hale was doing a Q&A tonight about how she's on the Bumble dating app.  I follow her on Twitter and get notifications whenever she tweets.  I've been following along with her Q&A tonight and it was more interesting than I thought it might be.

Going… To bed soon! It's almost 11pm and waaaaay past my bedtime. Goooo Cubs!

Loving… My babies! Cosima and Helena are the best little kitties a girl could ask for. Our 1 year anniversary is coming up on December 1st. Yay for us!

Hating… All the politics right now. Thank the Lord that Election Day is next week.  
 

Thinking… About going to bed. It's after 11pm now. It's top of the 8th inning and the Chicago Cubs are still up 7-2 against the Cleveland Indians. 

Feeling… Really really good! I'm in a really good place in my life right now. My job is great, I am financially able to support myself, I have amazing friends and family around me... I really couldn't ask for anything more right now!

Hoping (for)… A great photo shoot on Saturday! I'm in the process of writing an article for Holl & Lane Magazine and with the article I'm to submit 2-3 photos.  I don't really have any updated photos that are not selfies I've taken myself, so I'm having a photo session with a friend of mine. He did my headshots back in 2010 and still to this day they are the best headshots I've had taken. It'll be fun!

Listening (to)… I'm slightly obsessed with Carrie Underwood's newest album Storyteller right now. I saw her in concert in September and I've been listening to her non-stop. 

Celebrating… 3 years of being sober on November 11th! I can't believe it's been three years already! It's been an amazing three years and I couldn't be more grateful for where I am in my life right now.

Thanking… Everyone that came to see the theatre production I was recently in. A big Thank You to Page to Stage Theatre Company for casting me in their amazing show! Twilight Gallery was so much fun to work on. It really got me back into the full swing of acting again. It challenged me and made me a stronger actress. 

Considering… Getting on a dating app. I keep toying with the idea. I download Bumble and delete over and over again. 

Starting… To get excited about moving in January! Yes, January - the dead of winter. I'm moving from my apartment complex to a beautiful condo in a fantastic neighborhood! I'm moving up in the world :)

Finishing… Up the year! Can you believe it's already November? Goodness gracious! I haven't been blogging very consistently this year, so I'm going to do the Looking Back at... post that I've done the last couple of years. 

Happy November & An Instagram Challenge

Happy November everyone! I can smell the holidays approaching! I can certainly see them at most stores already.  Halloween was just yesterday, Thanksgiving is 23 days away and Christmas only 55 days!  To kick off November, me and some of my fabulous friends are hosting a November Instagram Challenge! It starts today and goes all month long. We would love for you to post along with us! Follow each of our accounts and use the hashtag #NovemberPhoto2016, so we can check out all of your photos!

Follow Along with Us on Instagram 
Erica (me) - @1hotredhd
Andrea - @alhadventures


The first photo is Hello Holidays and I can't wait to post the picture I've already taken (at 7:30 this morning).  I hope you can join in with us!

xoxoxo,