I'm Single Because...

I loath it when people ask me, "why are you still single?" Oh, gee, I don't know. No, really, I don't know!  Does there have to be a reason? Why can't I be single, because I just happen to be single? Then there are the people that tell me that I'm too picky or that I need to lower my standards.  I actually had a coworker of mine, years ago, tell me that I better hurry up because my eggs are only good until I'm about 32! WFT? Here's what I say to all of that ~

I'm not single because my standards are too high. Good for me for having standards. It's not because I didn't like that really, really good guy who wanted to take me on a date and I just wasn't feeling it. And it's not because I like to wear pajama pants as soon as I get home and wash all the makeup off of my face. I'm not single because I didn't learn enough from the past or would rather chill on a Friday night than shower, get ready, and go out. I'm not single because something is wrong with me.

I'm single, because I'm single. It's really as simple as that! I haven't made the connection with another heart yet. I can get dolled up, dress cute, cut my hair, dye my hair, tweeze my eyebrows, put on lipstick and I may still.be.single.  I can go out to a bar hoping to meet the love of my life and not find a one in the place. And it's going to remain that way until it's time for me to find one. I need to Stop hoping for it. I need to Start living the life that I do have instead of wishing for things that I don't have. I need to Start being more thankful. I need to Start doing that now!   ~Amanda Crute

Like it says above, any guy is going to have to be pretty amazing to change my single status. I'm done with dating someone just so I'm not alone. What's the point in doing that anyways? You'll just be dissatisfied with everything anyway and no one will be happy. I have high standards and I should! Everyone should! It's called having respect for yourself. After what I've been through in my dating history . . . ~

I'd rather be single than in a relationship with someone who doesn't deserve me.
I'd rather be single than in a relationship with someone who doesn't take me seriously.
I'd rather be single than in a relationship with someone who doesn't share the same values as I do.
I'd rather be single than in a relationship with someone who doesn't love me for every part of me.
Even the parts that aren't so pretty.
The parts that I still find myself to be ashamed of at times and the parts that I don't like to show.
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I want to be with someone who is going to take equal footing in making the relationship work.
I want to be with someone who will put equal effort into the relationship that I'm going to put in.
That's who I'm waiting for. 
That's who I'm praying for.

There's someone out there praying for the woman that I Am. We'll find each other. It has to be right. Until that time comes, I'm going to live my single life and be grateful for all that I have now.

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