To Facebook or Not To Facebook...

...that is the question.

I remember when Facebook was brand new.  2005 it came to the campus of George Mason in Virginia.  I was a senior in college and getting ready to graduate.  People were getting OBSESSED with it.  I didn't really know how to use it and never got the hang of it.  In 2006 when I moved to Los Angeles I started a Facebook account again to keep in touch with people from back home and college.  I've been on it ever since.

I get in moods sometimes where I want all the Facebook friends I can get.  Then I get in a mood where I don't want certain people to know what's going on in my life.  I go through deletion phases and then I re-add people.  I'll post pictures and then I'll take pictures down.  It's so annoying to me when people get mad at you for deleting them from your Facebook page.  First of all, person, I haven't seen or talked to you in forever.  We aren't actually friends. Did you wish me a Happy Birthday?  It's only Facebook.  I think it's ridiculous that people have thousands of Facebook friends (no offense to anyone who does...this is all my personal opinion).  Do you know every single one of them?  If you do...awesome.  It's one thing to have a fan page (Looking to the Stars FB Page) and have tons of followers, so don't get me wrong, my fellow bloggers.  I'm talking more of our personal life pages.

Honesty is a big thing for me.  "Our days of deception have officially ended.  Our cell phones are tracked.  Text messages and pictures live on the servers forever.  Every person out there with a cell phone can be considered a film maker, photographer, and writer.  We are triangulated, photographed, cookied, and pinged at every turn.  Computers know more about us now than we know about ourselves.  It's no longer a question of when you'll get caught in a lie, but a question of when?" (Aisha Tyler - Glamour Mag article).

You're probably wondering what this has to do with Facebook, right?  Well, I'll tell you.  I'm not going to get too detailed, because this person's identity needs to be kept private.  Let's just say that I was told a very specific thing in regards to a celebration event.  I later found out that it wasn't the truth. It was actually an event that I was lied straight to the face about.  How did I find this out...FACEBOOK.  The funny thing was, this person didn't post anything about it, but the person's friend did.  They probably thought I would never know or find out.  But I did and it hurt.  I felt deceived and somewhat betrayed.  There have been so many things in the last year where the universe has been trying to tell me something about this person.  Now I get it.

After that happened I decided to delete my Facebook account.  I had been thinking about it for a while and this was the last straw for me.  I lasted 1 week :)  I missed seeing what some of my real friends were doing.  Especially the ones that live out of town that I hardly get to see.  So, I got back on.  But boy, did I clean house!  I now have 127 Facebook friends and yes, I know every single one of them.  I would call these people up if I was in their town and I would invite all of them to my fabulous Christmas party!  I am more particular now than ever.  Only my Facebook friends can see what I post on my wall and on other Facebook friends' wall.

Along with honesty is respecting ones' privacy.  This is all something that has been sitting on my shoulders and I wanted to share it with my internet friends :)  I am not intending to offend anyone with my opinion of Facebook.  I do think it has great qualities and the fact that I get to keep in touch with the people that do matter and do love me and that I love back is amazing.  I like to consider myself an honest person.  I wouldn't tell someone something and then do the complete opposite and then magnify it online.  The internet can be a dangerous web of all sorts of information.  I guess what I'm saying is be honest with yourself and be honest with others.  That's really what it's all about!

Here is a fun picture of my favorite vampire...mostly because I don't like posting without pictures :)